Busy and TIRED. (Ramblings of a Mombie)
I never, ever thought I could be this tired in my LIFE.
I mean, I knew having a kid would totally change my life, and it has in soooo many positive ways. I do however miss the times of sleeping in whole days when I felt like doing so. As it goes, people always tell you to enjoy the days of uninterrupted sleep before babies, and while that is almost physically impossible in the last months of pregnancy due to the discomfort levels, I wish I'd somehow just forced myself to do so.
It's not all bad though, baby boy slept well for the first few months of life, but then teething struck and that was it for long sleeping stretches on his behalf, thank you very much. It's no wonder the term 'Mombie aka Mom Zombie' became a thing. I am literally functioning on maybe 3 hours of uninterrupted sleep at night and glorious ❤coffee❤. And all the comfort food my mouth can handle at one time (not surprisingly, a whole hang of alot). Which means I've gained a substantial amount of weight over the past few months :( I attempted to start working out...went for ONE WHOLE RUN, but realised that that meant I would have a full 13 hours of constant busy-ness after getting up from a not so restful night, and then getting like an hour or 2 two of rest/ mommy time before bed at night. HOW 'BOUT NO. Although, maybe I'm just being lazy and need to get my sh*t together and stop making excuses? Lol.
Whatever, I'm not going to push myself though. I don't desire a toned, marble statue body to the point of sacrificing even more of the little rest time I have in the day- so shoot me. It's such a typical thing for us women to guilt ourselves into doing this kind of thing though, because we see other moms with more kids doing it with (what seems like) complete ease. It's the same thing with taking on other extra activities in our everyday lives. I'm talking about things other than your 8-5 job and being a full-time mom. Anything above that is 'extra'.
Typical mom:I really don't have the time or energy to go to that birthday dinner tonight...*checks Facebook and sees pics of Susan, mother of 3's perfectly decorated cupcakes, as she hands them out to street people at a midweek church charity event*
Typical mom: OMG, if she has time for all that, surely I'm not doing enough as a mum or wife, if I can't do the same?? OMG I'M THE WORST.'
And so, we constantly take on more than we originally planned to, because we're always comparing ourselves to other women who are in the same or similar life stage as us. Or trying to just keep up with the expectations friends and family have placed on us. Well, I say 'no' to that, and aim to only do the extra that my tired, zombie ass can handle and more importantly, wants to do.
Not to say this is how it will always be and that I'll be a hermit for the rest of my days :P I know things will eventually get easier with baby's sleeping pattern as he gets older, and that I'll have more time for myself as he grows and doesn't constantly need my attention. I know I'll be able to do more extra and be more available and present to those around me, as he changes from a baby into a little boy.
The point is that currently, I'm a first time mum still finding my feet everyday and if I don't respond to your Whatsapp message for a while, or can't make your event, it's because I'm tired as hell and I'm still learning to juggle all the responsibilities in my life, and probably not because of any other reason. And I won't feel guilty about passing on this stuff. And neither should you!
NO to forced interactions and overextending ourselves!
YES to extra sleep and staying indoors because we feel like it!
Signing out,
Your sleepy neighbourhood ftm x
I mean, I knew having a kid would totally change my life, and it has in soooo many positive ways. I do however miss the times of sleeping in whole days when I felt like doing so. As it goes, people always tell you to enjoy the days of uninterrupted sleep before babies, and while that is almost physically impossible in the last months of pregnancy due to the discomfort levels, I wish I'd somehow just forced myself to do so.
It's not all bad though, baby boy slept well for the first few months of life, but then teething struck and that was it for long sleeping stretches on his behalf, thank you very much. It's no wonder the term 'Mombie aka Mom Zombie' became a thing. I am literally functioning on maybe 3 hours of uninterrupted sleep at night and glorious ❤coffee❤. And all the comfort food my mouth can handle at one time (not surprisingly, a whole hang of alot). Which means I've gained a substantial amount of weight over the past few months :( I attempted to start working out...went for ONE WHOLE RUN, but realised that that meant I would have a full 13 hours of constant busy-ness after getting up from a not so restful night, and then getting like an hour or 2 two of rest/ mommy time before bed at night. HOW 'BOUT NO. Although, maybe I'm just being lazy and need to get my sh*t together and stop making excuses? Lol.
Whatever, I'm not going to push myself though. I don't desire a toned, marble statue body to the point of sacrificing even more of the little rest time I have in the day- so shoot me. It's such a typical thing for us women to guilt ourselves into doing this kind of thing though, because we see other moms with more kids doing it with (what seems like) complete ease. It's the same thing with taking on other extra activities in our everyday lives. I'm talking about things other than your 8-5 job and being a full-time mom. Anything above that is 'extra'.
Typical mom:I really don't have the time or energy to go to that birthday dinner tonight...*checks Facebook and sees pics of Susan, mother of 3's perfectly decorated cupcakes, as she hands them out to street people at a midweek church charity event*
Typical mom: OMG, if she has time for all that, surely I'm not doing enough as a mum or wife, if I can't do the same?? OMG I'M THE WORST.'
And so, we constantly take on more than we originally planned to, because we're always comparing ourselves to other women who are in the same or similar life stage as us. Or trying to just keep up with the expectations friends and family have placed on us. Well, I say 'no' to that, and aim to only do the extra that my tired, zombie ass can handle and more importantly, wants to do.
Not to say this is how it will always be and that I'll be a hermit for the rest of my days :P I know things will eventually get easier with baby's sleeping pattern as he gets older, and that I'll have more time for myself as he grows and doesn't constantly need my attention. I know I'll be able to do more extra and be more available and present to those around me, as he changes from a baby into a little boy.
The point is that currently, I'm a first time mum still finding my feet everyday and if I don't respond to your Whatsapp message for a while, or can't make your event, it's because I'm tired as hell and I'm still learning to juggle all the responsibilities in my life, and probably not because of any other reason. And I won't feel guilty about passing on this stuff. And neither should you!
NO to forced interactions and overextending ourselves!
YES to extra sleep and staying indoors because we feel like it!
Signing out,
Your sleepy neighbourhood ftm x
I feel you. I'm in exactly the same boat. I have to admit, I have not yet... and I don't think I will ever feel bad for turning down an invitation or missing an event.
ReplyDeleteI am so tired of having to impress, or make other people happy when I 100% do not feel like it.
So... as you said...
"NO to forced interactions and overextending ourselves!
YES to extra sleep and staying indoors because we feel like it!"
I'd say cheers to that! ��